We will start this thread with what is depression to you? How does it show up? What is the earliest you recall experiencing it? Here is a start: Depression is dark and dank. It is a place that sucks you in to a darkness from which you feel you will never return. It rains hopeless and helpless, it has a power that can weigh you down and wants to convince you that you will never get up again.
I would invite you to write in your journal about depression and what it does to you. When have you experienced it and how do you react when it shows up? It think it may be a part of the brain that gets "stuck" and the consequence is the feeling of despair. You will notice that what MUST change is your perception and often we wait for something to happen before we feel we can make the change. But what if you can change on the inside despite the outside conditions? Maybe there are times when you have done this? Here is more information:
According to recent research, we spend up to 50 percent of our time caught up in our thoughts; a proven contributing factor to our unhappiness. Instead of drifting through our lives in a daze, consumed by thoughts of what could have been or planning those things which our out of our control in the first place, mindfulness allows us to engage with the here and now and approach our lives with greater clarity and peace of mind. www.buddhastation.com/buddhism-articles/bring-mindfulness-into-everyday-life-5-ways/
Fear People often feel afraid and then depression sets in. Here are some thoughts about fear: Fear is transient. Do not let it affect you permanently. (Robert Holder, 1958) When fear is faced it does not disappear but it ceases completely to rule the emotions.(Robert Holder, 1958) Do not: Make fear a habit. Project it into the future.
Let go of fear and change your thinking, if even for a day. Say, "Today I will keep the fear at bay". Or something like that to remind yourself to let it go for today and you may see that it has indeed become a habit that you will want to let go of.
My daughters dog and to her , her child is very sick and and the vets don't know what to do . Yesterday I was talking to her about bella (my 1st grandchild) and I started crying because I feel for her and bella . I so remember my loss of boo even though he died in 2009. My fear for her is intense They are coming to florida for christmas time and leaving bella and wookie with sitters and Marian is so afraid Bella will die while she is gone. I am too. I said to her let nature take it's course . She has spent thousands of dollars trying to make her better. But it seems every time she turns around something else comes up with bella. Her immune system isn't working well and she has 2 different infections. My daughter is a strong person she served in Bosnia and Irag in the army but I fear what will happen when she looses Bella because I feel it's inevitable and I don't know how to help her. I will be a wreck too . It's amazing how close we become to our animals. My fear is intense and I am not sure how to handle it because when i lost boo I ended up in php to deal with the loss How do we deal with the fear of the possible loss my fear is taking over .
There are many things that happen in this world and many are very painful. Animals are wonderful beings to love. When they leave us it is painful. But certainly we would not want them to suffer either. So when it is time we let them go, and maybe they go on to another journey without a physical body, maybe they move to a higher plane, maybe they are with other little animals in a animal heaven. We only know our loss, but the love we have for them NEVER dies. The physical form is no longer there, but we continue to feel the love we shared with them and that is something to be grateful for.
As I write this I hold back tears of sadness. Marian and Josh on Christmas day had to put bella to sleep. My daughters a wreck and I know how she feels and I know I can't take the pain away. She has to go through the loss and she even said to me I now understand what you went through loosing boo. Most of the time your pet becomes more than just an animal to you , they become part of you. They had to loose her on Christmas day. I told her it's going to hurt for along time and that I am there for her. It doesnt help any that I am crying along with her Bella Mia was my 1st grandchild. I will hold her dear in my heart Such a sad day for all of us.
It is VERY hard to lose a pet. The love for them is NEVER lost, but the physical being is no longer with us on this plane. If we knew that that the transition was someplace wonderful, perhaps we would not feel so bad.
Depression is something I've been dealing with for years now. I didn't believe it even existed until a number of years ago. Now I wish I never knew it truly exists. It can certainly rob you of so much life has to offer. I am making progress. I've found the book Feeling Good by David Burns to be helpful.
I'm new here and not sure how much information I'm inclined to give out. I don't believe any healing or progress comes without stepping out of one's comfort zone, but before I leave an e-mail address or cell information, just message me through here if you want to talk.